All right, Ziesenis… Out with it
To all my blog-following friends,
I’ve been skirting around the issue of the cancer in our family because I wanted to protect someone’s privacy. Last week Mom gave me permission to say what’s going on, so here goes.
Mom has been battling thyroid cancer for several years. We found out in August that … well… boy I hate actually putting the words down because I hope they’re not true. We found out that she’s losing the battle.
This is not fair. This is not right. This is 100 percent wrong. She’s got a cancer that they say, “Man, if you have to get cancer, this one is the one to get because it’s curable.” She’s supposed to be able to see her grandkids go off to college, and I’m supposed to talk her into doing the 3-day breast cancer walk with me. She’s not supposed to be sick at age 63. To say “this sucks” is just not nearly strong enough.
I’m telling you this today because she’s coming to the end of a heinous treatment she had to undergo so that she will have a better quality of life for a while. I can’t describe how hard it’s been to watch her go through these last few months. She has lost her voice, 30 pounds, her joie de vivre…. You get the picture. And the kicker is that this treatment will not cure her; it’ll just make the time we have a little easier.
So, Mom has 4 more treatments next week, then we hope, hope, hope she’s done. She needs all the courage she has to get through the next few days. She needs positive thoughts, encouraging words, prayers…. whatever is out there to give.
So, if you’re so inclined during the next week, push some positive energy our way. If you choose to leave a comment to this post, I’ll print it out and send it to her. And heck, if you want to send her a note via mail, write me and I’ll send an address (please make sure you haven’t been convicted of stalking in any state).
Thanks to you all for your support and kind words during this difficult time. And thanks in advance for your positive energy.



Craig on 07 Nov 2008 at 12:58 pm #
My mom got cancer, too. She was making deals with God, and for all we know, the Devil, too. She got it in her head, years ago. Had her eye removed so the surgeon could get at the cancer. But she is made of stern stuff, said she had a family to raise, and pretty much kept things to herself. Being the oldest (I am now 47), I was filled in. She is now 72. That was yet another time being the oldest was not the best thing. Ignorance would have been bliss. We still argued about things moms and eldest male sons argue about. But I tried to hold the line a bit and not let her have it a lot when I felt she was being a bit too overbearing. Moms use whatever weapons they have at their disposal, you know. Even illness. I called her on it once. She admitted it. I hugged her, told I would do whatever it was, and then told her I was still going to call her on stuff. She said she expected me to. That’s what family is for, I suppose. Kicking each other’s butts and being supportive at the same time.
Craig
Jenny on 07 Nov 2008 at 1:30 pm #
I wish I had the power to heal or words to soothe one’s pain, but the best I can offer is my love, support and friendship. Beth, I’m here if you need anything! I will continue to send much love to you, your mom and your whole family. No one deserves this disease, nor should any family have to watch someone they love dearly suffer. I so wish all of you peace and comfort.
Lesli Lord on 08 Nov 2008 at 6:49 am #
Cancer sucks. The unfairness to its victims and the harshness of the treatment is devastating. I wish you and your family the strength to continue to be united in your support of your mom.
Greg Risberg is a humorist, speaker, author and he recently sent me his latest book, 52 Bright Ideas to Bring More Humor, Hugs and Hope into Your Life and it contains several chapters of list about top movie picks for great laughs and more. Perhaps pen your own lists of movies, books, or events that you can share together? Time is now your greatest gift you can give one another.
All the best positive energy is being sent to you and your family from McKinney, TX. Your mom is in our prayers also.
Paula on 08 Nov 2008 at 8:09 am #
Hi Beth, I’ve been following your blog for a long time and appreciate it a lot.
I’m sad to know you and your family are going through this awful time.
From Argentina I’m sending best wishes your way and a heartfelt wish to your mom for her to get some peace during this phase.
Best
Mary@SimplyForties on 08 Nov 2008 at 5:01 pm #
I’m so terribly sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you both and all my positive energy (something in which I firmly believe) is coming your mother’s way.
steph on 09 Nov 2008 at 7:46 am #
Beth: My friend just lost a father to cancer this past week and his mom has cancer, too. I can’t tell you how this grieves me and I can only imagine what it’s like to face this as a daughter.
I’m sending all the positive thoughts and energy, strength, and hope your way that I can.
Dina on 09 Nov 2008 at 11:42 am #
Beth–sending good karma your Mom’s way from DC so that she can endure these treatments and regain her strength. You hang tough, too. Lots of folks thinking about you!
Beth on 10 Nov 2008 at 6:01 am #
As always, I am amazed at the kindness of … well… everybody. Thank you so much. I just printed these responses out to send to Mom. Just 4 more treatments left! Keep those positive thoughts flowing.
Jodi Ray on 10 Nov 2008 at 7:02 am #
Beth,
My thoughts and prayers are with you, your mom and your family. What a terrible and difficult thing to have to go through.
My mother-in-law died of pancreatic cancer two years ago. He death has left a big hole in the family. But we are able to look back and reflect on her beautiful life. Even in this last struggle with cancer, it brought out what an amazing woman she was. And it brought out the best in us as well.
Blessings to you.
Sara Best on 11 Nov 2008 at 6:51 am #
All my happiest wishes are going out to you and your family Beth. Take care of yourself, and your mom.
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Rebecca Smith on 11 Nov 2008 at 2:28 pm #
Beth, I’m deeply sorry that your mom and your family are faced with such an difficult and unfair struggle. All I can do is pray that you’ll all make it through with peace and strength.
Gutsy Writer on 12 Nov 2008 at 8:01 pm #
I went through cancer with my mom when she was 57, scary that it’s only 6 years more than my present age. My conclusion was I would never have treatment if I knew it was non-curable. My mom had liver cancer, which I think she got from Hepatitis C which wasn’t known when she was a young woman living in Africa. Keep enjoying life, it’s very precious, and all the best to your mom.
JoLeeAnn on 17 Nov 2008 at 10:35 pm #
Hello Beth,
I have always enjoyed reading your blog but I was very saddened to find out about your mother.I will certainly keep you and your family in my prayers.
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Rachel Polish on 05 Feb 2009 at 6:29 pm #
Beth,
I cannot imagine what you, your mother and family are experiencing right now. I’d love to send her a hand-written note with some good wishes enclosed. I’ve done this for friends in TNT and I’d be honored to let your mother know what a special daughter she has in you.
Keep up the good work with your blog and I’ll keep reading.
Thanks for all you are doing for TNT and the food bank, as well.
Stay in touch,
Rachel
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