I just got dumped
My boyfriend called me this morning and said he wanted to talk. Turns out he wanted to break up.
I mention this not because I want to tell the world that I just got dumped. I am bringing this up because all I want to do today is walk around my house and rid myself of things that remind me of him. And I want to be sad and to cry and to be angry.
When I had a full-time job, perhaps I could take the afternoon off. Or I could coast at work and not really concentrate on working. I had a lot more room to mentally take some time off before I started my own business.
But my to do list is staring at me, and there’s no one here to pick up the slack if I can’t perform. Small business owners need to focus on making their business work, and there’s a lot less room for error if you’re having a bad day.
But that doesn’t mean I’m not having a bad day.
Moonbeam McQueen on 17 Oct 2007 at 4:29 pm #
Awwwww, Beth…I’m so sorry. I hope you’ll schedule some time in for a good cry and some ice cream. I’m sending you some of those annoying parentheses hugs. ((((((Beth))))))
Beth Ziesenis on 17 Oct 2007 at 7:51 pm #
Turns out I did a very bad job of concentrating on work, despite the fact that I needed to concentrate.
Oh well.
Ice cream… now that sounds like a good idea.
Thanks, Ms. McQueen.
Paula on 18 Oct 2007 at 5:41 am #
From a work point of view, I’ve always thought not having a boyfriend is better for productivity. You can concentrate all your energy in work in order not to think about your loss. Maybe you can see this as a sign: like this is for you to concentrate only in work and then look for a relationship when you’re settled. I know it worked great for me when I had my first job. I cried my heart out before that though…..
I’m curious about why you changed from Wordpress to Typepad and how this server is working out..
keep writing!!!!
Best
Paula
Christine OKelly on 18 Oct 2007 at 11:35 am #
I am sorry to hear that Beth… and I think that’s a smart idea to get rid of all of the things that remind you of him. I’m a big advocate for cleaning out the “stuff” in your life often that you don’t absolutely love or need – “Things” hold a presence and if they aren’t working for me or bring me down – they’re gone.
I agree whole heartedly with Paula! Boyfriends are bad for productivity
That may sound a bit cold – but whatever was leading to that breakup may have been causing you to be unhappy and there’s just not enough time in life to be unhappy.
If people in your life or dragging you down or aren’t getting you where you want to go – it’s time to clean house. Stay strong and confident, focus on where YOU are going, and you won’t even have room in your life to think about this guy. When you make it to your goals, it will be his loss!
You’re going to be great with or without him!
Christine
J-Money on 22 Oct 2007 at 4:47 pm #
I’m just catching up on my avenuez reading… so sorry to hear that. Boys are douches sometimes.
Just hang tough, let yourself feel what you need to feel, whether that means curling into a ball or drawing horns on his picture or setting a small fire.
And promise that if anyone offers you any advice that begins with the phrase “A woman needs a man like…” that you’ll kick them in the lungs.
Take care of yourself…
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Craig on 17 Aug 2008 at 11:39 am #
Boyfriends who “want to talk” are never a good thing. Ever.
And if he is that big an idiot to drop you, then you are MUCH better off without him.
It will hurt less as time passes. Then when you get used to doing things by yourself and being on your own, that’s then THE GUY who IS meant for you will come along.
I have two lady friends who are went through and are going through divorces, and they truly blossomed afterwards. I gave them a shoulder to cry on, and when they hated men I gave permission for them to scream at me. We are still good friends.
You, too, shall blossom and grow.
Feel free to email me if you want to.
Craig
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Nancy J on 26 Nov 2008 at 1:20 pm #
Beth, Sorry to hear about the whole dumping thing. He wasn’t worth it – do you think he dumped you because of the weight gain? If so, you should be so glad he did. Where were his priorities?
Beth on 26 Nov 2008 at 1:49 pm #
Eh… He’s just not that bright, or at least that’s what I keep telling him.
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